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Aile ve Evlilik Terapisti Dr. Obeng\u00fcl Ejder, karnenin; \u00e7ocu\u011fun performans\u0131 kadar aile ili\u015fkilerinin de g\u00f6stergesi oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\nAile ve Evlilik Terapisti Dr. Obeng\u00fcl Ejder, karnenin; \u00e7ocu\u011fun performans\u0131 kadar aile ili\u015fkilerinin de g\u00f6stergesi oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Dr. Ejder, yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klamada, karne durumunun, \u00e7ocu\u011fun performans\u0131 kadar anne-baban\u0131n, hatta okul ve \u00f6\u011fretmenleri aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkilerinin de ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n yans\u0131mas\u0131 oldu\u011funu, bu nedenle, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z bir karne ile kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fan ebeveynlerin kendilerini de sorgulamalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6nerdi. Dr. Ejder, “\u00c7ocu\u011fumuza yeterince sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir aile ortam\u0131 sunduk mu? Birbirimizi dinleyip sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterdik mi? \u00c7ocu\u011fun dersleriyle yak\u0131ndan ve yeterince ilgilendik mi? Ona ders \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 kazand\u0131rd\u0131k m\u0131? Ona \u00f6rnek model olabildik mi? Yoksa sadece nasihatlerde mi bulunduk? \u00c7ocu\u011fun \u00f6zg\u00fcven kazanmas\u0131 i\u00e7in yard\u0131mc\u0131 olduk mu? Aileler, bu sorulara verdikleri yan\u0131tlarla, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm konusunda ad\u0131m atabilirler” diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n tek g\u00f6stergesinin karne olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na dikkat \u00e7eken Dr. Obeng\u00fcl Ejder, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 veya ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z karneye \u015funlar\u0131n yap\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6nerdi:<\/p>\n
“Karne notlar\u0131 iyi de olsa, k\u00f6t\u00fc de olsa sevginizin karneye ba\u011fl\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, sonucu ne olursa olsun onu sevece\u011finizi vurgulay\u0131n. Karne notlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckse ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n nedenlerini ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131n, mutlaka \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yollar\u0131 \u00fcretin. Y\u0131l i\u00e7indeki ders eksiklerini tamamlamas\u0131 i\u00e7in ona yard\u0131m edin. Okul hayat\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131ndan itibaren ders ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 var ise \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun \u00f6\u011frenmesini etkileyen dikkat eksikli\u011fi ve hiperaktivite bozuklu\u011fu ya da \u00f6zel \u00f6\u011frenme g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc\u011f\u00fc olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n belirlenmesi i\u00e7in mutlaka bir uzmana ba\u015fvurun. Karne notlar\u0131 iyi ise bunu g\u00f6rmemezlikten gelmeyin \u2019zaten benim \u00e7ocu\u011fuma bu yak\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131, bu senin g\u00f6revin tabi ki iyi notlar\u0131n olacak\u2019 ya da \u2019sana o kadar imkan sunduk bir de zay\u0131f m\u0131 alacakt\u0131n, tabi ki karnen iyi olacakt\u0131\u2019 gibi c\u00fcmleler kullanmay\u0131n. Onun ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 takdir edin, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00f6d\u00fcller ile motivasyonunu artt\u0131r\u0131n. Ancak fazla abartmay\u0131n, \u00e7ocu\u011funuzda endi\u015fe ve korku yaratacak, y\u00fcksek beklentilerinizden bahsetmeyin. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzu kendinizle, ba\u015fka \u00e7ocuklarla ya da karde\u015fleri aras\u0131nda k\u0131yaslamay\u0131n. Kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131zda ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftiremedi\u011finiz ideallerinizi \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmesi i\u00e7in beklenti i\u00e7ine girmeyin, ideallerinizin ve h\u0131rslar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n kurban\u0131 etmeyin. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fck karne notu yada s\u0131nav puan\u0131 alan \u00e7ocu\u011funuzda, s\u0131k s\u0131k a\u011flama, ola\u011fan aktivitelerden zevk almama, sosyal soyutlanma, su\u00e7luluk duygusu, yeme veya uyku d\u00fczeninde bozulma, \u00f6fke patlamalar\u0131, ba\u015f a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131, kar\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131 gibi fiziksel belirtiler ya da evden ka\u00e7ma, intihar gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler fark ederseniz; bunlar depresyon belirtisidir, mutlaka profesyonel yard\u0131m alman\u0131z gerekir.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
A\u0130LE VE EVL\u0130L\u0130K TERAP\u0130ST\u0130 DR. OBENG\u00dcL EJDER, \u201c\u00c7OCU\u011eUNUZA SEVG\u0130N\u0130Z\u0130N KARNEYE BA\u011eLI OLMADI\u011eINI H\u0130SSETT\u0130R\u0130N” DED\u0130.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12600],"tags":[43757,15830,13426,23048,43761,43759,43760,43758],"class_list":["post-276668","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-egitim-2","tag-cocugunuza","tag-bagli","tag-dr","tag-ejder","tag-hissettirin","tag-karneye","tag-olmadigini","tag-sevginizin"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/276668","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=276668"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/276668\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=276668"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=276668"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=276668"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}