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\u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi Rekt\u00f6r\u00fc ve Psikiyatr Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, s\u00fcrekli ele\u015ftirilen \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisini yetersiz ve beceriksiz hissetti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi. \u00c7ocu\u011fun karnesinde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck notlar\u0131n oldu\u011funu g\u00f6ren ailelerin genellikle, “\u015eu niye zay\u0131f, bu niye zay\u0131f” diyerek \u00e7ocuktan hesap sordu\u011funu belirten Tarhan, \u015f\u00f6yle konu\u015ftu:<\/p>\n
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K\u0130\u015e\u0130L\u0130\u011e\u0130 ELE\u015eT\u0130RMEK KEND\u0130S\u0130N\u0130 DE\u011eERS\u0130Z H\u0130SSETT\u0130R\u0130R<\/p>\n
“Bu arada \u00e7ocu\u011fun ki\u015fili\u011fini ele\u015ftirmeyi de ihmal etmezler. Halbuki do\u011fru olan ‘Bak, \u015fundan be\u015f alm\u0131\u015fs\u0131n, bundan d\u00f6rt alm\u0131\u015fs\u0131n. \u015eu zay\u0131flar\u0131 nas\u0131l d\u00fczelteceksin?’ tarz\u0131nda yakla\u015fmak, \u00e7ocu\u011fu ba\u015far\u0131ya motive etmektir. O zaman \u00e7ocuk kendisine de\u011fer verildi\u011fini ve sorumluluk ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hisseder. Karne yorumunda ele\u015ftiri dozunu ka\u00e7\u0131rmak ve m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i olmak, \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendine g\u00fcvenini azalt\u0131yor.”<\/p>\n
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BA\u015eKALARIYLA KIYASLAMA YAPMAYIN<\/p>\n
Tarhan, her \u015feyin \u00f6\u011frencinin ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 nota endekslenmesinin do\u011fru olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 vurgulad\u0131. \u00c7aban\u0131n ve gayretin \u00f6d\u00fcllendirilmesi, onaylanmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini dile getiren Tarhan, karnenin \u00f6\u011frencinin bilgi seviyesini g\u00f6sterebildi\u011fini ancak \u00e7aba ve gayretini g\u00f6stermedi\u011fini ifade etti. \u00d6\u011frencinin \u00e7abas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6z ard\u0131 ederek sadece nota g\u00f6re h\u00fck\u00fcm vermenin motivasyonun k\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131na neden olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten Tarhan, \u00f6\u011frencileri ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla k\u0131yaslaman\u0131n da yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funu ifade etti.<\/p>\n
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\u00c7ocu\u011fun ba\u015fkas\u0131yla k\u0131yaslanmas\u0131n\u0131n onu daha \u00fcretken ya da \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan yapmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen Tarhan, \u015f\u00f6yle devam etti:<\/p>\n
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KAYGIYLA \u00c7ALI\u015eAN \u00c7OCUK BEY\u0130N KAPAS\u0130TES\u0130N\u0130 TAM KULLANAMAZ<\/p>\n
“Belki \u00e7ocuk dersin ba\u015f\u0131na oturabilir ama mutsuz olur, kendisini eksik ve de\u011fersiz hisseder, \u00f6z g\u00fcveni zarar g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Bu y\u00fczden \u00e7al\u0131\u015fsa da kayg\u0131yla \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r ve beyin kapasitesini tam olarak kullanamaz. Okul bittikten sonra da kendisini s\u00fcrekli olarak ba\u015fkas\u0131yla k\u0131yaslar. K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k duygular\u0131 kabar\u0131r, ‘Ba\u015fkas\u0131nda var, bende niye yok’ diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp mutsuz olur. ‘Madem ben o kadar ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olam\u0131yorum, o halde hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapmayaca\u011f\u0131m’ der ve kendisini b\u0131rak\u0131verir. Oysa do\u011fru \u015fekilde yap\u0131lan k\u0131yas \u00e7ocu\u011fu ba\u015far\u0131ya g\u00f6t\u00fcrebilir. Burada ideal yakla\u015f\u0131m \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisine bir hedef belirlemesi ve kendisini kendisiyle k\u0131yaslamas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamakt\u0131r.”<\/p>\n
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“SICAK A\u0130LE ORTAMI BA\u015eARIDA ETK\u0130L\u0130”<\/p>\n
Tarhan, \u00f6\u011frencinin ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ev ortam\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi. Evde sohbetlerin ve payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n oldu\u011fu s\u0131cak bir ortam\u0131n bulunmas\u0131n\u0131n, ki\u015filerin kendisini g\u00fcvende hissetmesine neden oldu\u011funu ifade eden Tarhan, \u015funlar\u0131 kaydetti:<\/p>\n
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“Nas\u0131l bir bah\u00e7ede meyve ve sebzelerin yeti\u015febilmesi i\u00e7in iyi bir toprak, su, g\u00fcne\u015f \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131 gerekirse, evde olu\u015fturulacak s\u0131cak aile atmosferi de aile bireylerinin hayat\u0131nda \u00f6nemli rol oynayacakt\u0131r. Nitekim ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 insanlar\u0131n aile ya\u015famlar\u0131na bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda mutlu, esenlik ve g\u00fcven dolu bir aileye sahip olduklar\u0131 rahatl\u0131kla g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir. Ba\u015far\u0131 bask\u0131s\u0131 sadece okul y\u0131llar\u0131nda \u00f6\u011frencileri ve velileri de\u011fil, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131 ve yak\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131, k\u0131sacas\u0131 t\u00fcm insanlar\u0131 son derece ilgilendiren bir konudur. Ki\u015finin omuzlar\u0131nda hissetti\u011fi ba\u015far\u0131 bask\u0131s\u0131 dozu ayarland\u0131\u011f\u0131 takdirde, ki\u015fiyi ba\u015far\u0131ya g\u00f6t\u00fcrecek g\u00fcvenilir bir rehberdir.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bug\u00fcn karne heyecan\u0131 ya\u015fayan ancak notlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck olan \u00f6\u011frencileri, “hesap sorar ve ki\u015fili\u011fini ele\u015ftirir” tarzda de\u011fil yap\u0131c\u0131 \u015fekilde ele\u015ftirmek gerekti\u011fi belirtildi. \u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi Rekt\u00f6r\u00fc ve Psikiyatr Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, s\u00fcrekli ele\u015ftirilen \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisini yetersiz ve beceriksiz hissetti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi. \u00c7ocu\u011fun karnesinde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck notlar\u0131n oldu\u011funu g\u00f6ren ailelerin genellikle, “\u015eu niye zay\u0131f, bu niye zay\u0131f” […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-64697","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-saglik"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/64697","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=64697"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/64697\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=64697"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=64697"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=64697"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}