Psikolog Bar\u0131\u015f G\u00fcrka\u015f, ebeveynlere \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmede 6 \u00f6nemli ipucu verdi.
\nElektrikli motor kullanmak i\u00e7in ehliyetin istendi\u011fi bir \u00fclkede, bilin\u00e7li ebeveynlik ve \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in herhangi bir e\u011fitim ve ya yetkinlik aranmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen G\u00fcrka\u015f, \u201cG\u00f6r\u00fcnen o ki anne ve baban\u0131n bizi yeti\u015ftirme \u015fekillerine g\u00f6re bizler de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yeti\u015ftirmekteyiz. B\u00fcy\u00fcklerimizden g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz disiplin ve terbiyeyi do\u011frudan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za aktar\u0131yoruz. Bu noktada \u00e7ok kolay kopyalayabiliyoruz, ancak ku\u015fak fark\u0131 ve ebeveynimizin bilgi birikiminin d\u00fczeyini hi\u00e7 sorgulam\u0131yoruz. Bunlar\u0131n sonucunda da sorunlu olarak adland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7ocuklar ve nas\u0131l ileti\u015fim kuraca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmeyen ebeveynler ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor\u201d dedi.
\nPEK\u0130, \u00c7OCU\u011eA NASIL DAVRANMALI?
\nPsikolog Bar\u0131\u015f G\u00fcrka\u015f, konuya ili\u015fkin olarak yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klamada \u015funlar\u0131 kaydetti; \u201c\u00c7ocu\u011fun her istedi\u011finde her \u015feyi elde edemeyece\u011fini bilmesi gerekir, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta isteklerinin s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 ailede \u00f6\u011frenmesi gelecekte istek ve hedeflerinin s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 belirlemesinde belirleyici olacakt\u0131r.
\nAile i\u00e7inde konu\u015fmay\u0131 yeni \u00f6\u011frenen \u00e7ocu\u011fun etti\u011fi k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6zlere kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7evredeki tan\u0131d\u0131klar\u0131n bunu onaylamamas\u0131 gerekir. Ancak bu durum bizim k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fczde genellikle \u201caferin o\u011flum\u201d bir daha s\u00f6yle bakal\u0131m \u015feklinde olmakta.
\n\u00c7ocu\u011fu yapmas\u0131 gereken k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6revler i\u00e7in cesaretlendirin. Oyuncaklar\u0131 hatta k\u0131yafetlerini beraber toplayabilir, \u015fi\u015fesini a\u00e7mas\u0131 i\u00e7in zaman tan\u0131yabilirsiniz. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen bu g\u00f6revlerle gelecekte kar\u015f\u0131la\u015faca\u011f\u0131 engellerle ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenecektir.
\n\u00c7ocu\u011fun \u00f6n\u00fcnde kavga etmeyin. Hayatta rol model olarak alg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ailesinin onda b\u0131rakabilece\u011fi izler davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na ve ruh sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131na yans\u0131yacakt\u0131r.
\nHar\u00e7l\u0131k, yeme, i\u00e7me, oyun t\u00fcm arzular\u0131n\u0131 an\u0131nda ko\u015fulsuz yerine getirmek \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in anl\u0131k mutluluk getirse de, uzun vadede \u00e7ocu\u011fa zarar verecektir. T\u00fcm yap\u0131lan davran\u0131\u015flar, verilen \u00f6d\u00fcller d\u00fczenli ve tutarl\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zdaki ve ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lamaktaki tutars\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z gelecekte olumsuz olarak geri d\u00f6necektir.
\n\u00c7ocu\u011funuzu her durumda savunmay\u0131n. Her durumda savunmay\u0131n ki her durumda hakl\u0131 oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesin.
\nEn \u00f6nemlisi de \u00e7ocu\u011funuza g\u00f6sterece\u011finiz ilgidir. Unutmay\u0131n ki a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ilgi yeterli ilgi de\u011fildir, mutlu, huzurlu \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z olan \u015fey yeterli ilgidir.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Psikolog Bar\u0131\u015f G\u00fcrka\u015f, ebeveynlere \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmede 6 \u00f6nemli ipucu verdi. Elektrikli motor kullanmak i\u00e7in ehliyetin istendi\u011fi bir \u00fclkede, bilin\u00e7li ebeveynlik ve \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in herhangi bir e\u011fitim ve ya yetkinlik aranmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen G\u00fcrka\u015f, \u201cG\u00f6r\u00fcnen o ki anne ve baban\u0131n bizi yeti\u015ftirme \u015fekillerine g\u00f6re bizler de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yeti\u015ftirmekteyiz. B\u00fcy\u00fcklerimizden g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz disiplin ve terbiyeyi do\u011frudan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za aktar\u0131yoruz. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14,20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-91273","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-saglik","category-turkiye"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/91273","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=91273"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/91273\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=91273"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=91273"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erzhaber.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=91273"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}